Parents’ Words of Encouragement to Children
Encouraging words can have a strong impact in a child’s life. Parents who encourage their children by using positive reinforcement are building their identity each day. Children are identifying their strengths with the help of meaningful words of honesty and descriptive details about their actions.
Benefits of Using Positive Reinforcement Words
- Improves self-motivation
- Improves self-confidence
- Tend to stay on tasks longer
- More likely to repeat behavior that earns praise
Using Meaningful Words of Honesty
Giving sincere words to your child can encourage certain behavior. Children are able to reflect and think about their own behavior when given praise and honesty.
Don’t: You’re a genius!
Do: You came up with such good answers for that first question.
Don’t: You did very good!
Do: I like the way you came up with that idea on your own.
Using Descriptive Words
When you see positive actions coming from you child, point out a specific detail of their performance and describe what behavior led to good results; by using detailed words your child is able to recognize that you are paying attention and will keep them motivated to impress you.
Don’t: That’s pretty!
Do: I like the way you are using different colors for your drawing.
Don’t: Good Job!
Do: That was kind of you to share your cookie.
Using encouraging words and recognizing your child’s efforts rather than their achievements supports their development and most importantly their self-esteem. Children will continue to gain passion and motivation with your support and encouragement.
Crystal Maciel, CFA Intern
Crystal is interning with the Children’s Foundation of America this spring as she completes her bachelor’s degree in sociology at Cal State San Bernardino. She has earned an associate’s degree in child development at Chaffey College and plans to continue her education with a mater’s degree in social work. Crystal’s career goals are to advocate for children, support families in need of assistance and to help children cope with problems in everyday life. Crystal’s work experience includes care of children toddler to 5 years of age and has worked for three years with children and adults with disabilities. In Crystal’s free time, she enjoys going to art galleries, sewing, gardening and painting.